Depression is NOT a flaw in character


When you suffer with depression and you lose interest in everything you once we’re interested in and even lose interest in living your life it can be a tough thing to go through, not only have you got all those negative emotions and feelings going on, you also tend to develop A LOT of negative feelings and thoughts towards yourself. It can make you feel as if you just a ‘weak’ person for not getting up and getting on with life because you see people get upset and just pick themselves up you feel as if you should be able too. But that’s the problem with depression, it’s a chemical imbalance within your brain that you have no control over, it is not a flaw in your personality and it definitely doesn’t mean your weak. If anything it makes you strong for never giving up on your life, when you felt like you wanted to the most.

I think depression knocks a lot of confidence depression out of people, i know it did with me, I used to have questions and negative thoughts running through my head all the time ‘Why can’t I be like everyone else?’ ‘Maybe I’m just lazy’ ‘I know this is upsetting my family, so why can’t I just get on with it, I’m so selfish’. You feel as if you’re a burden on everyone and that your such a let down because you can’t hold down a job or can’t cope with getting up and having a shower or you feel like you can’t get out of bed and face the day etc, it makes you feel stupid and pathetic.

I think an important thing to remember when you or someone else is going through depression that it is NOT a choice and it is not a flaw in you or your personality, it is purely a chemical imbalance of hormones and emotions in your brain. Below is a brain scan comparing difference between someone’s brain suffering with depression and without, still think depression is a choice or a flaw in you or someone around you and not a chemical imbalance with hormones in the brain?


It’s important you don’t blame yourself for something that’s not your fault and don’t label yourself with negative labels about you and your personality ‘weak’ ‘pathetic’ ‘burden’ ‘useless’ ‘stupid’ ‘lazy’ none of these hateful names are going to make your depression go away, it will only take you down a more negative road. You have to seek help, talk to someone and seek help, there’s therapy’s, books, medication and ways of treating depression, it’s not easy but you cannot deal with this on your own, you need love and support around you.  Always remember ‘Depression is a flaw in chemistry not character’.

Stay strong, your strong and beautiful, no matter what you think ?




  1. February 1, 2014 / 10:30 pm

    I suffer Bipolar Type II where depression is the main problem. I sometimes forget I’m ill believing I’m just a useless, lazy lump. I just think I’ve managed to remember and I find myself agonizing over whether I should be off work or not, because after all I’m not really sick! Most days I still drag myself into work, sometimes I think at the detriment to my health. Thanks for the reminder, I think the brain scan says it all, our brains are working differently not in a healthy normal way. I once refused antidepressants (back when doctors thought I suffered unipolar depression) and was somewhat enlightened when the doctor turned to me and said ‘if I’d told you that you had diabetes would you refuse insulin’ when I said no, he explained how depression was a chemical imbalance in the brain and whilst I had done all I could to combat it, counseling, diet, etc sometimes only medication was going to correct it. Needless to say I took the medication, unfortunately it didn’t help but that’s because the diagnosis was wrong.

    • February 1, 2014 / 10:58 pm

      Aw thank you for sharing part of your story with me, I love reading comments from other people who can relate to what I write about! I do the exact same I’m only 19 so I’ve yet to hold down a job, but I’m currently on sickness benefits and I always debate am I ill enough not to work, its difficult because some days are good others aren’t and I often just think maybe I’ve become lazy. But I definitely think its important to remind ourselves not only is everyone lazy at times, we have an chemical imbalance on top of that! That’s a really good comparison actually, its true you wouldn’t refuse medication for diabetes so why wouldn’t you for mental illness!! xxx

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