Mental Health: Being Told To ‘Remember There’s Other People Worse Off Than You’


Ever had someone throw out the classic ‘There’s people starving in Africa and you think you’ve got it hard?’ or ‘There’s people with much worse mental and physical disability’s than you and they cope!’ line? I know I have and I’m pretty sure most people suffering from any mental health problem has! I understand why people use that line because it is true there probably are people ten times worse of than I am or any of us are, but that doesn’t change how we feel. As long as we know we have some things to be grateful for and can recognise we aren’t the worst off person in the world that’s all that matters. Unfortunately whether we can recognise that or not does not change our situations and the mental struggles we  go through, telling someone this will only make them feel guilty, worthless and very alone for not being able to cope with their situation when there are people struggling more than themselves.

Using this comparison is like a friend coming to me after they’ve broken up with their boyfriend, being in floods of tears needing someone to be there for them and me simply saying ‘Your crying over a break up when I have to fight OCD everyday?’ I would never dream of saying that. It’s not a competition and at the end of the day whether I have OCD or am going through tougher times than my friend, it doesn’t change the fact she is upset and needs someone. If it was as easy as someone telling you about how Joe Bloggs down the road is coping with such and such a problem better than you and they have it worse off, then everyone would be ok. If saying this helped or shocked people into thinking they shouldn’t be depressed or not working or giving into OCD rituals etc everyone would get better very quickly. I can’t say to my brain ‘OCD did you hear that, there’s someone worse off than me, there for you should stop bugging me now and making me depressed’ it just has a negative effect and makes me feel stupid and guilty.


At the end of the day there will always be someone worse of than you in life, but this doesn’t make what your upset about or struggling with any less. You are still struggling and there’s no switch to switch that emotion off, you can be grateful that you don’t have that other persons situation and maybe take some positivity from the fact you have things a little better but it’s not going to change your situation. I know sometimes you feel like someone’s over dramatizing their problems when you have a lot more stuff going on but try to remember what they feel is real and although it may or may not be as bad as what you’re going through, they still need someone and making them feel bad about feeling the way they do won’t help and at the end of the day everyone deals with stuff differently!




  1. robin1967
    March 25, 2014 / 7:15 pm

    Very well said…

    • March 25, 2014 / 7:16 pm

      Aw thank you, I’m glad you liked it! x

  2. March 25, 2014 / 8:00 pm

    You’re completely right about this. It drives me absolutely bonkers when people try to diminish the validity of someone else’s problems on the basis that they are not the worst imaginable one to have.

    It’s lovely to see someone talk about this and recognise that everyone’s problems can be burdensome, no matter how “small” they might appear to an outside observer. Beyond that, outside observers might not be seeing the entire picture: all you might know is that someone’s boyfriend dumped them, but what you might not know is that it’s the third guy to do so this year, or that the girl is pregnant, or that she has fifteen other problems unrelated to the dumping that she’s chosen not to tell anyone about because they’re too personal. A little compassion and understanding goes a long way in these situations.

    Thank you for your thoughtful post! <3

    • March 25, 2014 / 8:30 pm

      Definitely, that’s such a good point I didn’t think about that, that problem could just be the final straw from another lot of unrelated problems to the one they are saying there upset about! Glad you liked it, thank you means a lot! xxx

  3. March 26, 2014 / 12:06 am

    Great pictures and agreed ^ very well said post. I suffer from anxiety and OCD as well. It’s always nice to know you’re not alone. I’m hoping my blog can help people relate, check it out if you’re interested.

    • March 26, 2014 / 12:31 am

      Aw thank you, I love getting feed back from people! Your definitely not alone, the amount of people on twitter I have following me and have spoken to through blogging about my experiences with OCD and Anxiety is crazy, if your not on there already you definitely should! I will check out your blog now and follow you xxx

      • March 26, 2014 / 12:51 am

        That’s awesome, I’ll have to check out more of your posts! I hope you enjoy mine!

      • March 26, 2014 / 12:53 am

        I love that yours are short and sweet! Yeah I have lots on OCD, Anxiety and Depression! xx

  4. March 28, 2014 / 8:39 am

    That’s a very good post. I’ve heard myself many times people saying to me that others have it so much worse and they’re doing fine as if that would change the way I feel.. That you for this post!

    • March 28, 2014 / 9:25 am

      Aw thank you, means a lot to me! I’m glad you found it relatable! Xx

  5. Annie B.
    March 23, 2016 / 5:27 pm

    Absolutely! Telling someone they shouldn’t feel bad because others have it worse is as logical and as helpfull as telling someone they shouldn’t feel happy because others have it better.

    • March 23, 2016 / 5:29 pm

      Ah that’s such a good way of looking at it!! Thank you, so glad you liked it! Xxx

  6. John
    January 4, 2017 / 9:57 am

    I’m a little late, but I just read your post and wanted to say thank you. Recently someone has been saying this to me repeatedly (for a physical problem which has been bringing me down emotionally) and I couldn’t quite work out why it upsets me so much. You managed to articulate that for me and help me put my thoughts in order.

    • January 4, 2017 / 11:05 am

      Never too late for a comment, they bring a smile to my face! I’m glad it helped you feel less alone, maybe show it to the person who’s been saying these things to help them understand more why this doesn’t help!

  7. Caroline
    September 25, 2019 / 10:29 am

    I agree you always seem to be surrounded by people who’s lives are going really well when this happens so we know people are out there but when you don’t know or see them it’s harder to see the bigger picture of your life in comparison so the sentence sometimes makes your problem seem worse

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