Feel Good Friday: What If You Fly?

Today’s feel good Friday post is going to be about a quote I found on tumblr…

“What If I fall?

Oh but darling,

What If you fly?”

The reason I like this quote is not only for the positive message it gives but also because it relates to me personally. As you probably know I suffer with OCD and  the majority of OCD sufferers are plagued by the phrase ‘what if’ and it’s always about negative scary things. Why do you we always say ‘what if something bad happens?’ or ‘What if I embarrass myself during my work presentation?’ all examples of the sort of what if thoughts we all suffer with sometimes, It’s always negative isn’t it?

Next time I have a ‘what if’ thoughts I’m going to try to think of it in the opposite way. Take thoughts like the examples above and change them to ‘what if something good happens?’ or ‘what if my work presentation really impresses my boss and goes perfectly?’. The problem is we are quick to worry and look for the bad things in situations but struggle to see the good. Next time you think or someone else says ‘what if’ followed by a negative thought tell yourself or the other person ‘what if’ followed by something positive. Don’t let those ‘what if’ thoughts stop you from achieving things, don’t let them scare you into missing out on opportunity because until we try we can’t judge a situation.

Happy Friday,

Anna

Feel Good Friday: 10 Things To Do When You’re Feeling Blue

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Sometimes when you’re feeling down you tend to sit and wallow in the feeling, you mope around and feel sorry for yourself. We’ve all been there, when you feel like nothing will cheer you up or you just temporarily forget about the things that will make you feel better. I thought I would write a list of 10 things to do when you feel like your mood is in a downward spiral, I want to try to remember these things for when I’m struggling with my OCD, Anxiety or just feeling a little down. We forget there are things we can do to try to make ourselves feel a little better. So YOU, if you’re reading this when you’re down, its time to pick yourself, gather your thoughts and feelings and try to combat that blue feeling.

1.Create a playlist of songs that make you happy, the kind of songs that when you listen to you can’t help but want to sing or jig around to! Listen to the playlist when you’re not feeling your best, turn off those depressing slow songs, it’s all about the feel good music!

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2.Grab a comfy jumper, onesie or your favourite PJ’s and put them on. There’s nothing snugglier than being all comfortable and cosy, read on for ideas what to do before and after!

3. Take a warm, bubbly and calming bath with candles for a relaxing ambient. Baths are known to be relaxing, try to practice ‘Mindfulness’  whilst you’re in there. Become an observer of your thoughts but don’t get lost in them. Simply be in the moment, notice the feeling of the water, the smell of the bubbles and the warmth. Play some relaxing music or watch something you enjoy. When your brain tries to get you to worry and think too much, notice the thoughts but then bring yourself back to noticing the water, music or candles etc.

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4. Read a book. I’m not a huge fan of reading but I know a lot of people are and find it a good way to shut of their thoughts and escape into the words and stories on the pages. Although If I was going to pick a book to read a bit out of, it would be ‘Demi Lovato’s Staying Strong 365 Days A Years’ which I reviewed HERE. You could even read your chosen book in the bath!

5. Pick a feel good, funny film and watch it. A film your guaranteed to laugh at. Get under the covers or snuggle under a blanket on the sofa and have a giggle. I recommend Brides Maids.

6. Cuddle your pet. I love cuddling my dog when I’m feeling down, its like they can tell your not feeling your best and can make you feel so loved.

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7. Make a cup of tea, hot chocolate or coffee. There is something lovely about the warmth of a drink, we tend to associate hot drinks with cosy and comforting times.

8. Do something creative, paint a picture, draw, paint your nails, bake some delicious cute cupcakes, clear out your room, you know what they say clear room, clear mind! Being creative makes us feel productive and good about ourselves.

9. Go for a walk, either with someone, walk your dog or alone. Go somewhere pretty, take in the views and fresh air. It doesn’t have to be far but sometimes removing yourself from your current situation or surroundings can clear your head and get rid of that groggy, fed up feeling making you feel more alert and able to process your thoughts and feelings. Plus our bodies love fresh air, that’s a fact.

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10. Go to the shop, buy fresh flowers, a beautiful smelling candle, a magazine, some naughty foods and any other supplies that make you feel good. Go home arrange the flowers in a vase and put them in the room you spend the most time in, light the candle and read your magazine whilst munching on your favourite yummy foods or sip on a warm drink.

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These are just a few things we can do when we’re feeling down. Let me know in the comments what you do if your feeling down or any other suggestions you have for me or anyone else feeling down in the dumps and needing to turn that frown up side down!

Happy Friday,

Anna

Feel Good Friday: Be Kind To Yourself

   “AND IF YOUR DAUGHTER CAME TO YOU, CRYING WITH HUNGER, WOULD YOU TELL HER NO? WOULD YOU TELL HER SHE IS TOO FAT, SHE WANTS TO MUCH, SHE MUST SHRINK INTO SOCIETY? NO. THEN WHY WOULD YOU TELL YOURSELF THE EXACT SAME THING? YOU ARE SOMEBODY’S DAUGHTER.”

I came across this quote on Tumblr and it really inspired me. I just want to say you can easily change ‘daughter’ to ‘son’ if you’re not a female of course! This quote is close to my heart as I have struggled with my weight and body image since suffering with depression and eating my feelings. I feel contradictory writing about accepting your appearance as I have yet to accept mine and I am currently trying to lose weight after losing 3 stone on Weight Watchers and falling of the bandwagon for some months now. Not only because I will be more happy with myself but also to be healthy, how I feel about my body is stopping me from doing things I want to in life. I can’t lie though I do care what other people think, but I don’t think the way we talk about ourselves and make ourselves feel is ok. Telling yourself your fat, ugly, no one will love you etc is only going to make you feel worse and ultimately where is the self hate going to get you? will it make you prettier or thinner? or will it make you depressed and un confident? If you want to lose a bit of weight to be more healthy and comfortable in your own skin, then that’s great but if you we’re happy with the way you we’re until someone made you feel like your body wasn’t ok, then that’s not ok, if your happy and healthy that’s all that matters.

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Being self-conscious doesn’t mean we have to be nasty to ourselves, do we really deserve constant insults? no, we need to start being kinder to ourselves. You wouldn’t say to a family member or friend ‘ew your so fat, you look gross’ so why say it to yourself, you have feelings to don’t you? If being slightly over weight or bigger than society deems as ‘sexy’ is the worst thing people have to criticise you for, then you must be a pretty amazing human being inside. I would rather be overweight and able to change that problem if I wanted, than be a judgemental person who’s ugly on the inside, that’s a lot harder to change. Don’t abuse yourself with unkind words you wouldn’t use on someone else. If someone has a problem with the way you look that’s their problem not yours. Often we can see the beauty in other people, rather than ourselves,which means people see the beauty in us even if we don’t! I wish I had some words of wisdom on how to love yourself truly but I don’t, all I know is self hate will not change how you look, it just changes how you feel, and it’s not going to be in a good way. When we are happy and kind to ourselves that’s when we are able to motivate ourselves to change if that’s what we want, but calling ourselves nasty names along the way, will only make us more negative and less motivated.

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Feel Good Friday

I have really been loving listening to Taylor Swift recently, her songs are just lovely and really easy listening, plus I know the lyrics to all her songs, so I can sing very loudly to them! I was listening to this song yesterday and one lyric really stood out to me and inspired me.

The  lyrics in this song I really like are…

“Don’t you worry your pretty little mind, people throw rocks at things that shine”

This song is about love, but this line I think you can take however you want and to me it’s about being yourself and not worrying what other people think. There will be People who will always be unkind to different people who they don’t understand or are jealous of, which just means your different and you shine, so as hard as it may be don’t worry!

There will always be people who throw rocks at you but there will always be other people who think you shine, so never think you’re not special. The saying “You could be the juiciest ripest peach, but there will always be someone who doesn’t like peaches” really apply’s to this, there will always be someone who doesn’t like you, not because you do something wrong, just because that’s life we have different tastes and some people just won’t, but there will be tons of other people who will love you for who you are, so don’t change those quirky personality traits and looks, your beautiful ♥

Happy Friday,

Anna x

Feel Good Friday.

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So this post isn’t about buying things you can’t afford and getting in to debt because life is short, it’s about treating yourself. These days we all work so hard for our money yet we feel guilty when we spend some money on ourselves unless its something we feel like we really need which is practical. I’m not suggesting for one second you should buy whatever you want whenever you want, but I think its important to treat yourself sometimes, for no reason. Why shouldn’t you buy those shoes, or why shouldn’t you buy that top, handbag, make-up or whatever it is you’ve been eyeing up. Of course its normal to feel slightly guilty about spending a lot of money, but  what is the point in working so hard for money if you can’t even buy yourself something nice with.

Be sensible with your money but remember if you’ve got some spare cash and you want to treat yourself, do it. Whether it’s getting your hair done, your nails done or having a massage, I don’t know whatever it is, you deserve a treat. It doesn’t have to cost money, just taking some time out to do something for yourself, such as a bath with candles or relaxing in front of the TV with a film or reading a book you like. We forget to look after ourselves and I believe it’s the simple things in life that can lift our moods. I think we’re so busy worrying about everyone and everything around us we forget about making ourselves happy, so treat yourself, and don’t let anyone make you feel bad.

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