Feel Good Friday: What If You Fly?

Today’s feel good Friday post is going to be about a quote I found on tumblr…

“What If I fall?

Oh but darling,

What If you fly?”

The reason I like this quote is not only for the positive message it gives but also because it relates to me personally. As you probably know I suffer with OCD and  the majority of OCD sufferers are plagued by the phrase ‘what if’ and it’s always about negative scary things. Why do you we always say ‘what if something bad happens?’ or ‘What if I embarrass myself during my work presentation?’ all examples of the sort of what if thoughts we all suffer with sometimes, It’s always negative isn’t it?

Next time I have a ‘what if’ thoughts I’m going to try to think of it in the opposite way. Take thoughts like the examples above and change them to ‘what if something good happens?’ or ‘what if my work presentation really impresses my boss and goes perfectly?’. The problem is we are quick to worry and look for the bad things in situations but struggle to see the good. Next time you think or someone else says ‘what if’ followed by a negative thought tell yourself or the other person ‘what if’ followed by something positive. Don’t let those ‘what if’ thoughts stop you from achieving things, don’t let them scare you into missing out on opportunity because until we try we can’t judge a situation.

Happy Friday,

Anna

Feel Good Friday: Your Day And Clouds That Get In The Way

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So on today’s Feel Good Friday blog post I’m going to talk about not letting small negative things ruin your whole day. I’m not talking about serious, life changing events because I know this can’t be applied to certain situations  I know all to well that sometimes we let ourselves get so down and effected by little things that go wrong from day-to-day and forget all the good stuff. It’s really easy to do, your be going about your day and one thing will happen such as you break something, someone’s nasty to you, you eat that fattening piece of cake or you’re late for work etc and you let it effect your whole day. I really like this quote I found on Tumblr, I think its such a good way of looking at things, and decided I wanted to make a little picture to go with it and write about it. Think of the whole sky as your whole day and the cloud as that bad thing that’s gone wrong. You wouldn’t look at the whole sky and see one cloud and think today’s weather was awful, you would think at least it’s not blocking the sun, at least it’s just one cloud, at least it’s not raining or at least it’s still warm etc. If it was raining would you let it take over your whole day? No you would think ‘oh well it will pass and the sun will come out soon’. The same thing goes for bad things that happen within our days, those little annoying, inconvenient things that get you down. Why let one thing or a few small things completely take over and ruin your whole day?

For instance just today I have binge eaten on all sorts of bad foods whilst I’m trying to lose weight, I instantly feel like a failure and that I have ruined my diet now. But there is also some good things that have happened today, its sunny, I’m healthy, my family are well, I have had a productive day, I had a delicious Costa, I cuddled my dog and my anxiety isn’t too bad today. These are all good things that seem to get overlooked by the one bad thing that happened. Another the example is I will have had a good day and then in the evening a OCD thought makes anxious and scared and suddenly think what a bad ending to a good day or well that’s ruined my good day! It’s such a negative way to think, the good day still happened and one bad thing shouldn’t affect your whole day.

We often tend to have the mind-set of ‘okay yes today has been a good day BUT that bad thing was worse and ruined it’. The only reason that bad thing ruined or over powered the good things were because we allowed it to, we pay it too much attention to the bad and not enough to the good stuff.  We are quick to notice the bad things but not quick enough to appreciate the good things. No matter how small those good things still happened and having some bad things can’t change that unless you let it.  Just imagine that bad, inconvenient thing as a cloud passing by in the background of your blue sky (which is your day. When I look at the picture above I don’t notice the little grey cloud first, I notice the pretty daisy, the bright green grass and the vibrant blue sky. Notice the beauty and good things surrounding you and start paying less attention to the negative things, don’t let them ruin your whole day. Acknowledge them but don’t give them your whole days worth of emotions, allow the good emotions to be the ones you focus on that’s how we learn to appreciate the little things.

Happy Friday beautiful people,

Anna

Feel Good Friday: Character Not Reputation

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At some point everyone feels pressure to be a certain way to be accepted by people around them. I know when I was at school I definitely did, I wanted to fit in like everyone else does and its not until I left school I realised how being popular is not the be all and end all. Yes it is easier to fit in and be like everyone else that’s why we do it, but once you’re out of that situation you’re going to wish you stuck to your true character. Whether its doing something you don’t want to but everyone else is doing so you feel you have to, or liking the same music because its uncool if you don’t, letting people walk all over you because your afraid if you say something they won’t like you any more. Whatever it is remember your reputation is not worth discarding your character for, if you have to be a certain way around people and they try to make fun of you because of who you are, they aren’t the right people for you to be around. Your true character doesn’t suit them, so accept that and find friends you can be yourself and nothing but yourself around. They are the friends that will be there when you need them, the others aren’t your true friends if they laugh at you because you won’t drink alcohol, smoke, look down upon you or listen to same music as them whatever it may be. Stay true to yourself and you will find some true friends you fit in with.

Happy Friday,

Anna

 

 

Feel Good Friday: Hello May!

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I do not understand where the months go, at the start of the New Year I wrote a blog post about what I want to achieve this year and how months and years go by,  then before I know it nothings changed, you can read that  post HERE. I can’t believe it’s already may and I’m starting to notice how nothing has changed again. May isn’t a significant month like the January is because of the New Year, but I will be turning 20, which I’m not going to lie scares the crap out of me!! I remember turning 18 and it only feels like 5 mins ago, not a lot has changed since then. This is a ‘feel good Friday’ blog post so I don’t want to focus on the fact my life hasn’t moved on much, instead I want to focus on starting to achieve things I want to. To get the ball rolling I’m going write a mini may list of little things I want to start achieving  or that I am looking forward to this month. Obviously these achievements and aspirations are not only for the month of May but it’s almost a little to do list to remind me, get me started and motivate me! So here goes..

  • Firstly although turning 20 scares me, I am excited its my birthday. Who doesn’t like having a whole day dedicated to celebrating your birth where you receive present, eat too much cake and spend time with your family!

 

  • May is usually slightly warmer than April, which is always something to look forward to. Although, its been raining and thundering in England the past couple of weeks, oh the joys of an English spring/summer! The sun seems to not only brighten up the sky’s, but my mind also feels brighter and fresher when its summer!

 

  • More weight loss, so as some of you may know I am a Weight Watchers member, I managed to lose 3 stone but then I fell of the band wagon and put some of it back on. I have recently started getting back in to it and I’ve started doing my ‘Jillian Michael’s 30 Day Shred’ Work out again. So I am hoping the month of may, is going to be a good one on the weight loss front (plus all the other months to)!!

 

  • Now here’s a big one for me, this crosses my mind every month and is probably my biggest challenge. I haven’t had a long-term job pretty much ever due to my OCD and Depression, I have had short-term jobs but due to the problems I was going through,  I would quit. I am getting stronger at managing these problems and know I need to start looking for a part-time job soon, yes I probably am putting it off. It’s a big deal to me though, its scary and Its going to be out of my comfort zone. During May I want to start to just look around for jobs and maybe apply for a couple of part-time ones. I feel almost ready, but fear is stopping me, but I am hoping turning 20 will motivate me into taking the plunge, I don’t want to leave it much longer if I can help it!

 

  • I don’t thank my blog, readers and followers enough. It means so much to me that people take the time to read my blog posts and even find help and comfort in some of my mental health posts. I am looking forward to my blog growing and having lots of lovely new followers and seeing where this blogging journey takes me!

 

  • Another thing that’s on my to do list is cooking and blogging Weight Watchers recipes! I always say I’m going to do this but I never do. I have already started trying some new ones out, I recently made banana oatmeal pancakes, kale chips and a pesto and mascarpone filled chicken breast with home-made bread crumbs, yum! Here’s to many more!

 

  • This is a stupid one, but I am looking forward to it none the less, I love Catfish the tv show and there is a new series starting on the 12th of may on MTV. Does anyone else look forward to new series of TV shows? I don’t think I am the only one! TV has really been boring me recently so I hope some new series will be coming out. I miss My Mad Fat Diary already!

 

Let me know in the comments what you’re looking forward to in may, or things you want to start achieving. Also let me know if you decide to write a little reminder list to!!

Happy Friday and Happy May!

Anna

Feel Good Friday: Be Kind To Yourself

   “AND IF YOUR DAUGHTER CAME TO YOU, CRYING WITH HUNGER, WOULD YOU TELL HER NO? WOULD YOU TELL HER SHE IS TOO FAT, SHE WANTS TO MUCH, SHE MUST SHRINK INTO SOCIETY? NO. THEN WHY WOULD YOU TELL YOURSELF THE EXACT SAME THING? YOU ARE SOMEBODY’S DAUGHTER.”

I came across this quote on Tumblr and it really inspired me. I just want to say you can easily change ‘daughter’ to ‘son’ if you’re not a female of course! This quote is close to my heart as I have struggled with my weight and body image since suffering with depression and eating my feelings. I feel contradictory writing about accepting your appearance as I have yet to accept mine and I am currently trying to lose weight after losing 3 stone on Weight Watchers and falling of the bandwagon for some months now. Not only because I will be more happy with myself but also to be healthy, how I feel about my body is stopping me from doing things I want to in life. I can’t lie though I do care what other people think, but I don’t think the way we talk about ourselves and make ourselves feel is ok. Telling yourself your fat, ugly, no one will love you etc is only going to make you feel worse and ultimately where is the self hate going to get you? will it make you prettier or thinner? or will it make you depressed and un confident? If you want to lose a bit of weight to be more healthy and comfortable in your own skin, then that’s great but if you we’re happy with the way you we’re until someone made you feel like your body wasn’t ok, then that’s not ok, if your happy and healthy that’s all that matters.

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Being self-conscious doesn’t mean we have to be nasty to ourselves, do we really deserve constant insults? no, we need to start being kinder to ourselves. You wouldn’t say to a family member or friend ‘ew your so fat, you look gross’ so why say it to yourself, you have feelings to don’t you? If being slightly over weight or bigger than society deems as ‘sexy’ is the worst thing people have to criticise you for, then you must be a pretty amazing human being inside. I would rather be overweight and able to change that problem if I wanted, than be a judgemental person who’s ugly on the inside, that’s a lot harder to change. Don’t abuse yourself with unkind words you wouldn’t use on someone else. If someone has a problem with the way you look that’s their problem not yours. Often we can see the beauty in other people, rather than ourselves,which means people see the beauty in us even if we don’t! I wish I had some words of wisdom on how to love yourself truly but I don’t, all I know is self hate will not change how you look, it just changes how you feel, and it’s not going to be in a good way. When we are happy and kind to ourselves that’s when we are able to motivate ourselves to change if that’s what we want, but calling ourselves nasty names along the way, will only make us more negative and less motivated.

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Feel Good Friday: A Reason Not To Give Up

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I love this quote, its inspiring, thought provoking and it speaks a lot of truth! You know when you’re struggling with life’s general ups and downs whether it be a problem with mental health, school, weight loss or anything tough your trying to come out the other side of or succeed in and you feel like it’s all too hard and you feel like your going to have to give up? DON’T. Tomorrow could be the day you succeed and come out the other side of the that mental or physical struggle you’re battling with. If you give up on something you will never know how close you were too succeeding, it could have been a week or a month away and yes you can start the whole process again, which is also good but just think you could be so so close to that goal!

Keep reminding yourself how close you could be to success, why give up right now, keep going until you find success in what ever area you’re seeking it in your life. It may of taken longer than you’d like but imagine how good and strong you will feel once you reach where you want to be! No genius has ever stopped trying, no matter how many times it took they never gave up and that’s how they became an inventor, genius or recovered from a mental illness whatever it may be, that could be you, hang on in there and keep fighting!

Happy Friday beautiful people,

Anna

Feel Good Friday: Memories

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Yesterday I was feeling all emotional looking at my Baby book and thinking of when I was a child. I don’t know why but looking at old stuff reminds me of who I was and who I want to be as in this crazy modern life we live, It’s easy to get lost in life stresses and petty arguments about things that aren’t important. When I look back at me as a child and all the memories I have kept in a big box, it feels me with many emotions, sadness because I’m not where I’d think I would be when I was a child instead I’m fighting OCD, depression and anxiety but at the same time happiness for all the great things I have done and its a reminder that even though things can seem tough at times, I didn’t always feel like that and I won’t always feel the way I might do right now. You can check yourself and go back to that same happiness just as an adult or slightly older person that’s gained some life skills. Hold on to memories and when you feel like you don’t know who you are or who you want to be, look back at old things and remind yourself of where you came from, where it all started. I feel so grateful to have the family I do and looking back at the memories makes me realise who the few people are who have stuck by me since day 1 no matter what. My family. Which I am so grateful for as I know some people aren’t as lucky as me.

I keep all my memories in a box under my bed from medals, swimming badges, gymnastics leotards, my brownie sash, things from holidays, photos etc all sorts,  I also have other big things that don’t fit into this box like toys in my loft! I love looking through it every now and then, don’t ever throw away those memories keep them and then you can look back and feel all nostalgic and re live them with the people you shared them with. Memories are priceless, compared to the superficial things we spend our money on, nothing can replace the feelings and sentimental value of the items that bring back happy memories.

I apologise for the quality of the photographs in this post, blame the photographer who definitely wasn’t me (cough cough).

 My huge over filled box of memories!

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 Below is my  teeny tiny gymnastic leotards,  I done gymnastics from a very young age until I was about 11! Here’s a fun fact about the long-sleeved leotard, I actually came home from gymnastics one night and waited to long for the toilet then as you can imagine it’s not the best thing to be wearing when you’re in a hurry to get to the toilet, unfortunately the damage was done, I wet myself, luckily I was at home, TMI?

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In the next photo is my Disney jumper from Florida, my brownie sash full of badges, a  giraffe puppet I made in year 6 and last but not least a huge folder of badges, the certificate showing in the picture was a swimming achievement, I loved swimming and have tons of certificate and badges from that!

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In the above picture there is a signature book from Florida, that lady’s and gentlemen is the REAL Aladdin’s autograph ;), on the right hand side I have balloon  that was given to me on my 18th birthday as 18 is one of those big birthdays in England! To the left is my baby book which I was reading through yesterday and one of the things I liked from the ‘first time’ section was this..

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My mum said she wrote this just because I had a strong neck but I like to thing it’s because I have been holding my head high since day 1 and I still am no matter what!

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This picture is a photo from my baby book of my brother holding me when I was just born, look how pleased he is with his perfect baby sis!

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Last but not least a video of me doing trampolining and as you can see from the date its old, 1998 I was only 4! I love watching this I was the  cutest thing, I want to get this put onto DVD as its pretty hard to come by a video player now a days!

Happy Friday,

Let me know in the comments if you have a box full of memories or if you like to hoard that sort of thing!

Anna